Conflicting Emotions Are Normal After A Disaster

After the Camp Fire swept through his hometown of Magalia, California, Ken Kupstas wasn’t sure what shape his home was in. He had been out running errands and couldn’t get back into the town.

Firefighters found his dog of 14 years, a Chihuahua named Precious at home, but she was beyond help, so Ken had to do the one thing he didn’t want to do.

“It was hard to give her up, but I didn’t want my little girl to suffer, I really didn’t,” the 82-year-old widower said. “She was my best friend, and I had to do what was best for her.”

VOLUNTEER_mental health1Ken knew his home was there but didn’t how bad it might have been damaged until a friend showed him a video on a smartphone of his neighborhood. He stared intently until he finally saw his home, intact and still standing.

“There it is, there it is,” he said excitedly as he watched outside a Red Cross shelter in Chico where he’s staying. “Oh my, it’s still there.”

Nearby, Holly Cristofaro, a Red Cross mental health counselor at the shelter who had talked to Ken before, heard the news and rushed over to hug him.

VOLUNTEER_mental health2“Oh, what a relief for you,” Holly said to Ken as he fought back the tears and smiled. “This is so nice to hear.”

As they parted, Holly said, “We still want to be here for you.”

Holly, a social worker in Boston, explained that often after people have been through an ordeal like waiting to hear about the fate of their home, the feelings of physical exhaustion start catching with them.

She said while Ken got some good news. Still, he’s like so many others going through the ordeal of loss and not sure about the future.

“You support them and let them tell their story, let them share. It can mean a lot to them to have someone listen to what they’ve gone through,” Holly said.

Those who escaped the wildfire are faced with an array of feelings.

Holly said many are dealing with their initial fears of not surviving and recalling the heat as they fled. Others are feeling bad about having to leave their pets because they only had a few minutes to get to safety and many pets ran away in a panic.

Then there is the feeling of gratitude for being alive, tempered by not knowing what is going to happen next.

Holly said many of those she has talked with have shown so much resiliency and determination to overcome the adversity.

“It’s a good sign of being able to recover,” Holly said.

For Ken, all those feelings have become part of his life, and while the future may be uncertain, he’s ready to face it.

“I believe things will get better, I really do,” he said. “I’ve been a fighter all my life. I’m too ornery to give up.”

To reach out for free 24/7 counseling or support, contact the Disaster Distress Helpline at 1-800-985-5990 or text “TalkWithUs’ to 66746.

Story and photos by Carl Manning, American Red Cross volunteer

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A Red Cross Volunteer Earns Her Wings

When Paul Royce, known to the locals as “Turtle,” lost his home in the fire that devastated Paradise, California, he was really was at a loss as to what he would do next.  “I’ve lived in communes, and I’ve lived on the road, but right now, I haven’t a clue as to where I’ll be.  I have absolutely nowhere to go.”

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Red Cross Disaster Spiritual Care Volunteer, Cynthia Bellina, heard about Turtle’s dilemma at the Red Cross shelter in Chico and knew she had to act. “Turtle needed that little extra care. He’s lived the most interesting and exciting life. In listening to his stories about his life I could understand his need for independence and his zest for life. I just couldn’t say no. I knew I had to help; I just had to!”

Bellina wasted no time. Turtle wanted to relocate to the Grass Valley in California. So, she searched the internet and started making calls. After the sixth phone call, she found a hotel that was willing to help Turtle. Sierra Mountain Inn agreed to provide a month of housing for him, thus providing him with the opportunity for a new start. Turtle’s new home is on the first floor and is wheelchair accessible-just what he needed.

When asked about Bellina’s kindness, Turtle’s eyes filled with tears as he reached out to tenderly touch the volunteer’s shoulder and said, “She was my voice; she was my Angel.”  Indeed, Cynthia Bellina earned her Red Cross Angel Wings.

Photo and Story by Michele Maki, American Red Cross

Chores Take On A New Meaning

Sometimes little, ordinary things can mean a lot. Little things like getting your clothes washed.

Take Debbie Medica. Her home in Paradise, California was destroyed by the wildfire that swept through the area. She fled with little more than the clothes on her back and what few things she could grab as she ran from the house.

“We were told to get out, and we didn’t waste time,” she said. “It was nothing but chaos with the fire coming our way.”

She was able to get her dog Mollie into the car but dealing with her cat Chewy was a whole different matter. She’s finally accepted the fact that her cat probably didn’t make it but she still holds a faint hope that somehow it Chewy survived.

“I know she’s lost, but I keep thinking maybe, just maybe,” Debbie explained. “She freaked with the smell in the air and ran off.”

At the Red Cross shelter in Chico, Debbie sits on her cot, trying to come to terms with what happened.

“I try to stay cool but I do fall apart from time to time especially when small things happen, but I’m not alone. I know that,” she said.

Debbie is trying to keep her sense of humor as she talks about how before the fire she was planning to declutter the home where she had lived a dozen years.

“I was thinking how I needed to get rid of a lot of the stuff. Oh well, be careful what you wish for,” she said.

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Chico, California, November 18, 2018: Debbie Medica puts her clothes in a bag so they can be taken to a laundry in Chico, California. Debbie lost her home to the wildfire that destroyed much of Paradise community. At a Red Cross shelter, she was happy to be able to get her clothes cleaned.

As Debbie talked, Red Cross volunteer Kathy Grochowski came up and told her that a local laundry service was offering to clean the clothes of residents and handed her a plastic bag to put her clothes in.

For the first time in a long time, Debbie smiled as she dropped her clothes in the bag, including her favorite jacket.

“It’ll be nice to have it clean it again,” she said. “I’d like to get that smoke smell out.”

Kathy, who’s from Owensboro, Kentucky, said that something as simple as clean clothes can mean a lot to those like Debbie who have suffered so much. Washed and folded, the clothes were returned the next day.

“Anything to make their day a little better and more normal is good for their recovery,” she said. “They’ve been through so much.”

Story and Photos by Carl Manning, American Red Cross volunteer

Local organizations to provide a one-stop safe-haven at Red Cross Shelter

Through successful collaboration between the American Red Cross and five local organizations:  North Valley Animal Disaster Group, University of California Davis Veterinary Emergency Response Team, Birch Valley Ranch Equestrian School, Gridley FFA, Chico FFA, County and Yuba-Sutter Amateur Radio Emergency Services, the Butte County Fair Grounds shelter in Gridley, California, has become a safe haven for families, farm animals and those with domestic pets.  The Red Cross continues to support the shelter with volunteers providing food and emotional support. The volunteers have welcomed hundreds of displaced community residents who have no place to go. The shelter, which is located south of the wildfire (Camp Fire), is still open to all those seeking shelter and resources.

PARTNER_Collaboration2The North Valley Animal Disaster Group (NVADG) continues taking in livestock and is working with UC Davis Veterinary Emergency Response Team as well as the Birch Valley Ranch Equestrian School to provide the animals with shelter and medical attention. Holly Keller, a former resident of Paradise, brought her two horses to the livestock shelter and is also a volunteer of NVADG. Holly used her experience from the 2008 fire evacuation, to act quickly in evacuating her horses from the recent fire. Holly is very proud of the support that the livestock area of the shelter has received and encouraged anyone seeking to make a donation, to make a financial contribution or to offer grass hay, to call 530-895-0000 to inquire about the supplies needed for the day.

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John Madigan, the coordinator of the UC Davis Veterinary Emergency Response Team (VERT), supports the NVADG by proving medical attention to the animals. Dr. Madigan is grateful for the medical supplies donated. Dr. Madigan urges those with large animals to plan and to not take a chance with their safety.

 

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At the request of the Red Cross and Butte County, the Butte Fair Grounds shelter information desk is being supported by the Yuba-Sutter Amateur Radio Emergency Services. Assistant Emergency Coordinator Neil Bossard “Buck” listens for live reports on the fire and maintains contacts with others radio responders. Buck, a volunteer, recalls being guided out to safety by a radio operator when his car was surrounded in flames in the Butte/Valley fire a few years ago. When asked about his memories of that day, Buck recalled, “I remember everything. I will never forget the volunteers that helped me in my time of need.”

 

 

At the Butte County Fair Grounds Shelter, the American Red Cross is honored to work alongside NVADG, UC Davis VERT, Birch Valley Ranch Equestrian School, Californian state volunteers, and the Yuba-Sutter Amateur Radio Emergency Services to offer those fleeing the fire shelter, food, housing, and accommodations for their livestock.

 

The Red Cross is working hard to continue to partner with local organizations and broaden the resources available to those affect by the recent fire.

Story Written by Amy Fuente, American Red Cross volunteer

Thank You to Our Supporters, part 2

Thankfully, the deadly Camp Fire in California is now 100 percent contained. For nearly three weeks, the American Red Cross has been on the ground providing shelter, food, and comfort to those impacted by these devastating fires.

We want to recognize the following corporate partners for their significant financial support:IMG_5908

  • Citizen Vine
  • McClellan Business Park
  • Red Hawk Casino
  • Sacramento Consolidated Charities
  • Sundt Construction
  • UC Davis

These companies in addition to those previously listed (https://capitalcrosswords.com/2018/11/20/thank-you-to-our-supporters) enable our Red Cross volunteers to continue to walk side-by-side with Californians left reeling from the deadly wildfires, providing safe refuge, meals, health services, spiritual care and compassion throughout the holiday season.

Learn more, and see how you can help: https://www.redcross.org/about-us/news-and-events/news/2018/california-wildfires-red-cross-helps-as-thousands-evacuate.html

Fleeing family gets help from Red Cross

For five frantic hours, Sonya Butts worried about whether her husband and two youngsters had survived the raging wildfire that swept through Paradise, California and destroyed their home.

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Paradise, California, November 14, 2018: A wildfire went through the town of Paradise, California, destroyed hundreds of homes and leaving thousands homeless. Many residents found relief at Red Cross shelters set up to take care of them. Photo credit: Tony Briggs, American Red Cross.

She was at work when the evacuation order came to flee the approaching flames. She called husband Orin who told her he was leaving with their two dogs and that her grandmother Yvonne Tranah had her 4-year-old daughter Abby and her 3-year-old son Landyn with her.

That last thing she heard in the phone call with Orin as he pulled out of the driveway was that the house was going up in flames and there was nothing that could be saved.

Sonya, meanwhile, was stuck in traffic and cell service wasn’t working so she couldn’t reach Orin by phone and could only worry. They had agreed to meet at a store parking lot in Chico. After a couple of hours of driving, she arrived, but all she could do was wait for the rest of the family and hope they were safe and well.

Fear raced through her mind like the fire through their home. Questions repeated themselves and wouldn’t stop. Did they make it? Are they all right? Where are they?

“I didn’t know if they got out or not and all I could do was worry. However, it was so awesome when they all got there. It was so relieving,” she recalled as tears filled her eyes retelling the story at a Red Cross shelter in Chico.

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Chico, California, November 14, 2018: Sonya Butts reads to her daughter Abby, age 4, and son Landyn, age 3, at a Red Cross shelter in Chico, California. The family was reunited at the shelter after they fled the wildfire that destroyed their home in Paradise. Photo credit: Carl Manning, American Red Cross.

The family once reunited arrived at the shelter set up at a school and Sonya said they were overwhelmed by the outstretched arms of welcome they all received from the Red Cross volunteers.

They were able to get fresh clothes that had been donated, a hot meal and a safe place to sleep.

After recalling that terrible day, Sonya gathered Abby and Landyn with her on her cot and read to them as she had before the fire.

“Everything that we need is here, and the most important thing is that we’re are all here together in a safe place,” she said. “You know, after being separated for those hours, being together in a safe place is very comforting.”

Story by Carl Manning, American Red Cross volunteer

Couple Faces Sad News with Hope 

Don Vassola and Myrtle Hovey are at the Red Cross shelter located at the Church of the Nazarene in Oroville. They are dealing with loss and sadness, yet they are hopeful. Both express their concern for the many new friends they have met here at the shelter who have lost their homes to the Camp Fire. 

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A few days ago, Don learned that he lost his 89-year-old grandmother, Maria. Don said his grandmother was devastated by the loss of the home that she shared with her husband in the town of Paradise.  

Don believes that when his grandmother realized the devastation she was facing, it was too much for her to bear. With her home in ashes, Maria began to wander and was lost for a few hours.  

Eventually, Maria made her way to a shelter. No one is quite sure how she got there. Luckily, Don’s grandfather managed to reunite with her. Sadly, by then, Don says his grandmother had given up all hope. Don’s grandfather tried to encourage Maria to eat a little food, but she refused and said, “I just want to go home.”  

Not long after, Maria passed away.  

Shortly after, Don’s grandfather was able to contact Don and Myrtle with the sad news. 

Though Don and Myrtle are having challenges of their own, they are praying for the many people around them who have lost so much. And they expressed their gratitude and appreciation to the many people who keep the Oroville Red Cross shelter up and running. 

We at the Red Cross, join Don and Myrtle in thanking all volunteers from around the country who have come together to provide shelter, food, and comfort to the many people in need.

Story and photo by Marlene Stamper, American Red Cross volunteer